Dear Mummy, I’ll soon bring man home. 

When we were younger – well almost all of us (if you’re not a part of this then you’re weird lol) – we were eager to grow older.  We used to act dramas as older people and we just couldn’t wait to grow up and enjoy the freedom that those adults used to ‘enjoy’.  A freedom that wasn’t so free after all.  Unfortunately, we only got to know this bit after experiencing it ourselves and by then,  it was too late to go back.

A lot of people seem to have this one moment in their life when they realize “Oh no!!!  I’ve grown up 😓😓. Some people,  like me,  have many of these moments while some others have none because well, maybe they haven’t grown up 😂.

Well if you have had any of these moments, then you can relate with how scary it is momentarily to realize that you’re going to have to stand on your own two feet. Alone.  I’ll be sharing some of these scary moments in my life with you and hopefully, some of you can relate.

It all began with some of the regular stuff like:

1. When I started getting my own seat in the Danfo (yellow buses used for commercial transportation in Lagos, Nigeria).

2. And I stopped fighting for the window seat. (Yes I used to do this).

3. I started appreciating the effort put into animated movies and cartoons instead of just watching blindly.

4. And I started willingly taking responsibility for things.  Like wow Tomi! keep adulting babyyyyy 😁😁

Then it moved on to some tougher ones like:

5. When I had to start cooking my own food.

6. When I actually had to make plans for myself and follow through.

7. When whatever I needed stopped automatically falling in my laps when I asked.

8. And they started telling me to ‘Take responsibility!’

And then some changes I noticed in myself like:

9. When I started to prefer staying indoors to going out.

10. The concept of parties stopped exciting me.  Any kind.

11. I stopped holding grudges over silly arguments.

12. And my friendship circle grew smaller but stronger.

13. I learned to let things go.

14. And when I want to go an expensive restaurant, I’m the one that started telling myself  “there is rice at home”😂😂😂

Then there were the weird ones too like:

15. When little children started saying “Good morning ma” to me…. like girlllll you’re old😂😂 (I didn’t even know what my response was supposed to be).

16. And I was the one that had to give them ‘change to buy biscuit’.

17. When my mom started asking if there is ‘any man’. 🙄🙄

18. And family started asking for aso ebi. (Nigerian outfits made from matching fabric to be worn by a group of people to a party, wedding, or funeral as a uniform). P

19. When I started looking forward to sleep instead of dreading it.

20. And I could do whatever I wanted to do BUT I DIDN’T!!!

And I guess the biggest shocker of all was;

When I actually started understanding what my parents meant when they said “you’ll understand when you’re older”.
I’m still growing and I’ve learnt that it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. So just in case you think you are doing badly, don’t beat up yourself darling, you’re doing great. No matter how bad you may seem at ‘adulting’, just remember that you’re courageous for even giving it a shot, because age doesn’t define maturity; some people will never grow up!

Most importantly keep this quote from Nina Dobrev in mind:

“Even though you’re growing up, you should never stop having fun.” So don’t worry mummy, I’m still having fun but very soon,  I’ll bring man home😁😁

Thank you for reading. Please share your growing up experience with me in the comments section. I can’t wait to read them.

Much love,

Your tiny eyed storyteller 😁

36 thoughts on “Dear Mummy, I’ll soon bring man home. 

  1. I’m really enjoying your stories, dear. They’re so good and it keeps me wanting to read more. See the time sef
    I would just have to continue later on today.
    Looking forward to other new ones❤️

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  2. honestly… I almost want to tell all these small children that they can just say good morning… without the MA… makes me feel very old… I’ve grown Oooooo… 😥😢😥…. I want to go back ooooooo

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  3. This is so relatable. It’s amazing how we grow up and realise that we can’t go back no matter how much we want to. You know once upon a time, I use to be forced to sleep in the afternoon after school hours and I never liked it back then.But now I have to most often demand that “please I want to sleep now”.

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  4. one of the most important changes I noticed is the fact that we no longer cry to our parents for help on every matter. we have to think like adults ….as the day goes by the word “I’m OK” becomes more pregnant with not being anywhere near fine. Our generation only lives in morning and night no space for afternoon cos the world is running and the occupants are flying. I noticed now I let go of things easily too. and the ma* of a thing is almost general. I get confused and I’m like av I lost my baby voice and face? but no it’s a way of imposing responsibility. such is life all I can say is while adulting” allow urslf to make mistakes and correct them. live the short life to the fullest. and for the mums inserting husband matter in morning devotions…*We will soon bring a man home* go sch momma

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  5. Sooo true… That “Good morning ma greeting” gets me like “Nooo stop” 😭😂.

    Having priorities change over time, Overlooking a lot of things, Realizing how much of God one needs to survive…. So much about growing up. Lol.


  6. This over relatable! Like I don’t even struggle for the window seat again, they’ll just say “Let aunty stay in the middle” Biko who is aunty?!
    Great write up miss Tomi, I loved every bit of it.

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  7. I’ll be twenty in a week, and whenever I remember I’m like woah! Adulthood can wait. I’m not ready 😭😭. So I can relate even though I’m still this young and I cannot really be considered an adult on some levels. Really like the blog post. 😊

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    1. Loool we all feel that way sometimes. The sad part is that growing up is inevitable…so we just have to make it worthwhile. Thanks for reading too😁


  8. I can relate to virtually everything especially that impulsive buying that I know how to do but had to stop because there is food at home (if you spend your money, you will be short of it when important things come up) and trust me after university, they will now say “you are now a graduate”, hence no pocket money. When you are now serving, “you are a walking class woman, I can’t be dashing you money”. Next, “is there anyone (husband) yet?”.

    It was a nice read!.
    We are all grown and still growing up!.
    Our parents should not worry, “man” is on his way.😅😄

    Roses of Life

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  9. Nice one. Tne challenges of growing up to become an adulr were different in our own generation but still the same concept, of realizing you have to take responsibility for yourself and lprobably for others too. But wait a minute….seriously my Sunshine is growing up and will be bringing a man home soo? Hmmmmmm.


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