The Science of Pain.

The Science of Pain.

How do people get out of bed when they don’t feel up to it? When nursing deep emotional pain? How do you take off your covers and put your feet in your slippers when you can feel your heart being squeezed, your chest tightening up, a ball in your throat, a pit in your stomach, a [...]

Best Pork Ribs in Lagos – Food Shack, Restaurant Review

Best Pork Ribs in Lagos – Food Shack, Restaurant Review

If you know me well enough, you'll know that I'm always making a list of new places to eat but somehow, I end up eating at the same 2 or 3 places. I cannot, for the life of me, understand why. Anyways, I finally went somewhere new for the first time in a long while [...]

You don’t have to be one thing, but you can’t be everything.

You don’t have to be one thing, but you can’t be everything.

I remember sitting on the pavement by the garden in the house I grew up in, asking my aunty one short question "Why can't I be everything?" I don't remember the answer she gave me anymore but I remember exactly what I was thinking when I asked that question.

My First Paint-and-Sip Experience.

My First Paint-and-Sip Experience.

Hiiiiiiiii!!! Welcome back! I feel like I need to explain why this blog is now tomioflagos.com. My explanation might give you a little inkling into why I've been away for the longest time. So...my original blog was hacked. I don't know what happened exactly but I just started getting a lot of spam posts like [...]

“So you can see me?”: On catcalls and street harassment.

“So you can see me?”: On catcalls and street harassment.

Sometimes, I try to ignore but sometimes it gets really annoying especially when the person touches me or says some really demeaning things to me. I honestly have no idea why some men do this because I’m so sure that they know how annoying it is. For God’s sake, catcalling is not a compliment! It’s [...]

House Hunting in Lagos (2): I got a houseee!!!

House Hunting in Lagos (2): I got a houseee!!!

Hellooooooo! Welcome to Part 2 of house hunting in Lagos . I haven't been this stressed before in my life. If you haven't read about the okay, the bad and the super ridiculous parts of house hunting in Lagos, you should take a look before going on with this post because I'll be getting right into it! 

HOUSE HUNTING IN LAGOS: The Okay, The Bad and The Super-Ridiculous.

HOUSE HUNTING IN LAGOS: The Okay, The Bad and The Super-Ridiculous.

“House hunting in Lagos is an extreme sport.” “House hunting in Lagos is draining.“ I recently started a new job quite far away from my present house, so I’ve been trying to get a new place to live close by. Let me start by saying again that I had no way of knowing that when [...]

BIRTHDAY BEHAVIOUR: TURNING 21 BY FORCE!

BIRTHDAY BEHAVIOUR: TURNING 21 BY FORCE!

Finally! My birthday post! I delayed this post till today because I’m trying to get back on my Sunday posting wagon so yes. New posts will be going up on Sundays again.  The Birthday Post! I thought on my 21st birthday, I’d be writing some form of overly reflective post on how much I’ve achieved [...]

LIFE AFTER NYSC + SIGNS YOU ARE YOUR OWN GREATEST ENEMY

LIFE AFTER NYSC + SIGNS YOU ARE YOUR OWN GREATEST ENEMY

Yaaaaassss people!!! I have gotten my certificate and I have hung my boots. NYSC is over! It actually feels like yesterday that I was writing my camp chronicles but in reality, a whole year has passed. No more CDS. No more clearance. No more allowance from the Federal Government. No more PPA. No more free [...]

BOOK REVIEW || DEAFENING SILENCE BY STEPHANIE ODILI

BOOK REVIEW || DEAFENING SILENCE BY STEPHANIE ODILI

Hello Guys! How is the week starting? Over here, I’m starting the week with the review of a great book I recently read. I got this review template from Tovelous so please head over to her blog and show her some love. Now, let’s look at the book. Genre: Fiction Theme: Civil War, Patriotism, Patriarchy Chapters: 18 Pages: 213 [...]

LIFE UPDATE: WHO MISSED ME?

LIFE UPDATE: WHO MISSED ME?

Hello people! It’s been a while since I’ve been here and I really missed posting on the blog. I missed all of you readers, subscribers and faithful 'commenters' (shout out to Promise, Modupe, Banke, Praise, Blessing, Ayomide, Treasure, Ozioma and all the other regular commenters I didn’t mention). Y’all are forever amazing. One of my [...]

Do You. The World Will Adjust!

Do You. The World Will Adjust!

Haha! Oya it's story time😂. So sometime last month I was in a gathering of people that I usually get together with to get things done. One babe kept staring at me (so much that I started feeling uncomfortable). After staring for a while, she asked "How do you cope?" One of the guys with [...]

#CITYLeadersArise2018 Summer Camp: Day 3

#CITYLeadersArise2018 Summer Camp: Day 3

DAY 3 - Morning Hi guys, I'm here again. Ready to download the full gist from today. Soo yesterday I forgot to mention that we were divided into squads (both volunteers and leaders). I mentioned that we call the campers leaders since that's what the camp is all about -making them into leaders. There are [...]

#CITYLeadersArise2018 Summer Camp: Day 2

#CITYLeadersArise2018 Summer Camp: Day 2

Who remembers my July Review where I mentioned how much I have been anticipating volunteering for CITY Summer Leadership Camp this year. Well, the camp started yesterday but I just got into camp today so even if it is my Day 1, it's technically Day 2 here in camp. After I got in today, I [...]

THE ACT OF KINDNESS IS IN GIVING…

THE ACT OF KINDNESS IS IN GIVING…

I dragged my feet in my worn-out jungle boots as I walked out through the gates of the local government at Ikeja. I was supposed to be relieved that I had finally finished my clearance but I was not. I was tired and hungry and I really hoped that they would pay our allowee that [...]

Love, Warmth, Grace and Sunshine: July Review.

Love, Warmth, Grace and Sunshine: July Review.

Hey lovelies, Happy new month. Welcome to the month of August. It's been a while since I did a monthly review so I thought I'd do one this month. July was everything I thought it would be and more. I reached and even passed most of my goals for July and that made me really [...]

SO I’M JUST SUPPOSED TO SETTLE?

SO I’M JUST SUPPOSED TO SETTLE?

Today, I’m going straight to the point. It irks me when I hear people say things like “Let her continue rejecting all the guys. Shebi when she’s 35, we’ll see her at Shiloh.” Or “You can’t reply dms abi? Don’t worry when you’re old and ugly, you’ll come and start praying for husband.” I'm tired [...]

RIDE-OR-DIE, TODAY SOMEBODY WILL DIE!

RIDE-OR-DIE, TODAY SOMEBODY WILL DIE!

You know those friends you call ‘ride-or-die’, ones who would eagerly do big things for you before you even ask. There has to be a big gesture involved before you can confidently call them that. I had one of those. I still do. Her name is Tori and I’ll tell you how she earned the [...]

TO THE FRESH GRADUATE: One Year Post-Convocation.

TO THE FRESH GRADUATE: One Year Post-Convocation.

Hey Fresh Graduate, It’s a year already. One whole year after graduating university. And it’s nothing like I thought it would be. I thought I would be living the ideal post-graduate life but right now, it’s the exact opposite. What a shocker! I’m supposed to be doing my masters in jand right now with oyinbo [...]