Today makes it 20 years since my biological dad passed. In a world where everybody wants to tell you how to do everything, - how to parent your kids, how to love, how to be a friend, how to process pain - this is one pain I’ve never really known how to process. My earliest [...]
Have you felt an itch in your throat and thought "Oh my God, is this it!" ? Have you sneezed and instantly started to Google the symptoms of coronavirus even though you already Googled it 17 times in the last 24 hours? Have you felt a little warm and touched your neck several times to [...]
How do people get out of bed when they don’t feel up to it? When nursing deep emotional pain? How do you take off your covers and put your feet in your slippers when you can feel your heart being squeezed, your chest tightening up, a ball in your throat, a pit in your stomach, a [...]
If you know me well enough, you'll know that I'm always making a list of new places to eat but somehow, I end up eating at the same 2 or 3 places. I cannot, for the life of me, understand why. Anyways, I finally went somewhere new for the first time in a long while [...]
I remember sitting on the pavement by the garden in the house I grew up in, asking my aunty one short question "Why can't I be everything?" I don't remember the answer she gave me anymore but I remember exactly what I was thinking when I asked that question.
Hiiiiiiiii!!! Welcome back! I feel like I need to explain why this blog is now tomioflagos.com. My explanation might give you a little inkling into why I've been away for the longest time. So...my original blog was hacked. I don't know what happened exactly but I just started getting a lot of spam posts like [...]
Sometimes, I try to ignore but sometimes it gets really annoying especially when the person touches me or says some really demeaning things to me. I honestly have no idea why some men do this because I’m so sure that they know how annoying it is. For God’s sake, catcalling is not a compliment! It’s [...]
Hellooooooo! Welcome to Part 2 of house hunting in Lagos . I haven't been this stressed before in my life. If you haven't read about the okay, the bad and the super ridiculous parts of house hunting in Lagos, you should take a look before going on with this post because I'll be getting right into it!
“House hunting in Lagos is an extreme sport.” “House hunting in Lagos is draining.“ I recently started a new job quite far away from my present house, so I’ve been trying to get a new place to live close by. Let me start by saying again that I had no way of knowing that when [...]
Finally! My birthday post! I delayed this post till today because I’m trying to get back on my Sunday posting wagon so yes. New posts will be going up on Sundays again. The Birthday Post! I thought on my 21st birthday, I’d be writing some form of overly reflective post on how much I’ve achieved [...]
Hi Guys! My People! This is not welcome back! This is 'I'm sorry'. This is 'I'm really really sorry'. A number of people have messaged me to ask why I haven't put up any post in months. Some have actually confronted me physically as to why I took a break without any notice. So here [...]
Yaaaaassss people!!! I have gotten my certificate and I have hung my boots. NYSC is over! It actually feels like yesterday that I was writing my camp chronicles but in reality, a whole year has passed. No more CDS. No more clearance. No more allowance from the Federal Government. No more PPA. No more free [...]
Hello Guys! How is the week starting? Over here, I’m starting the week with the review of a great book I recently read. I got this review template from Tovelous so please head over to her blog and show her some love. Now, let’s look at the book. Genre: Fiction Theme: Civil War, Patriotism, Patriarchy Chapters: 18 Pages: 213 [...]
Hello people! It’s been a while since I’ve been here and I really missed posting on the blog. I missed all of you readers, subscribers and faithful 'commenters' (shout out to Promise, Modupe, Banke, Praise, Blessing, Ayomide, Treasure, Ozioma and all the other regular commenters I didn’t mention). Y’all are forever amazing. One of my [...]
Haha! Oya it's story time😂. So sometime last month I was in a gathering of people that I usually get together with to get things done. One babe kept staring at me (so much that I started feeling uncomfortable). After staring for a while, she asked "How do you cope?" One of the guys with [...]
DAY 3 - Morning Hi guys, I'm here again. Ready to download the full gist from today. Soo yesterday I forgot to mention that we were divided into squads (both volunteers and leaders). I mentioned that we call the campers leaders since that's what the camp is all about -making them into leaders. There are [...]
Who remembers my July Review where I mentioned how much I have been anticipating volunteering for CITY Summer Leadership Camp this year. Well, the camp started yesterday but I just got into camp today so even if it is my Day 1, it's technically Day 2 here in camp. After I got in today, I [...]
I dragged my feet in my worn-out jungle boots as I walked out through the gates of the local government at Ikeja. I was supposed to be relieved that I had finally finished my clearance but I was not. I was tired and hungry and I really hoped that they would pay our allowee that [...]
Hey lovelies, Happy new month. Welcome to the month of August. It's been a while since I did a monthly review so I thought I'd do one this month. July was everything I thought it would be and more. I reached and even passed most of my goals for July and that made me really [...]
Today, I’m going straight to the point. It irks me when I hear people say things like “Let her continue rejecting all the guys. Shebi when she’s 35, we’ll see her at Shiloh.” Or “You can’t reply dms abi? Don’t worry when you’re old and ugly, you’ll come and start praying for husband.” I'm tired [...]
